I often hear people ask a woman, “Who delivered your baby?” to which the woman replies with the name of whatever doctor was present at her birth. This is a typical conversation among childbearing women, one at which no one bats an eye.
But I would argue that this language is not the best choice of wording when we talking about how we give birth.
A few weeks ago, I was talking with a pregnant woman who said of her first birth, “Dr. So-and-So delivered me.”
I know she didn’t mean it like this, but it sounded as if she was in a situation from which she needed to be delivered. This language infers that the woman is the passive party in the scenario, a helpless one at that, who needs a stronger, more capable person to free her from the burden of pregnancy and labor.
On the other hand, I love how midwives talk about the act of a woman giving birth into the hands of a competent provider.
They say “catch.”
“I caught the baby.”
I LOVE THIS.
It puts the emphasis right where it belongs. The mother as the active, strong, capable person delivering her baby into the hands of a gentle, caring midwife. The mother is the one who does the delivering here.
This wording implies humility and honor on the part of the provider. It gives praise and acknowledgement to the one who did all the work and deserves all the credit – Mom.
So next time you cross paths with a freshly postpartum mother, ask her how her birth went, and ask her, “Who caught your baby?”
(photo by Kim. See more of Jenn's birth here)