If you’ve read any of my previous blog posts on the postpartum period, you’ll know that it’s not my favorite. I’ve said that I’ll go through labor and delivery ten times before I’ll go through the first month of postpartum once. And after having a particularly rough time after my second was born, I’ve incorporated more advice and support for this particular period in my prenatal meetings, helping my clients to come up with a detailed plan for getting through those first critical days and weeks.
Separately, in my own personal life, I’ve been exploring and growing into the concept of living with less over the past two years. It started when I stumbled upon the idea of a capsule wardrobe on Pinterest, and continued as I radically reduced the number of things in our home following the plan inThe Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I have grown to love living simply, and as I continue to pursue a more stripped-down approach to life with kids, I can’t help but wish that I would have known about and embraced this lifestyle before having babies!
With what I’ve grown to know and love about living minimally, here are 7 reasons I believe embracing this type of lifestyle will help you to have a better postpartum:
1. You won’t lose things. If you reduce the number of things in your home, thereby reducing clutter, you will literally know where everything is. When I was going through my home in The Great Purge of 2017, there were so many things I didn’t even realize that we had, and even if I did I wouldn’t have known where they were. Minimizing gave us the space and freedom to value our things so stuff didn’t get lost in the jumble. The moments I lose something are now few and far between! And when a new baby is crying in the car seat as you rush to get out the door, the last thing you need is a lost set of keys or other essential item!
2. Reduce decision fatigue. This is especially relevant in the clothes department. Most of us have piles and heaps of clothes that never get worn, yet we keep it in our closets. So every morning when we get dressed, we sift through the many things we don’t love to find just the perfect thing, starting our day with much more mental energy spent than needed. I realize that this is tricky since our bodies are ever changing as we grow and care for our babies, but honestly we really don’t need as many clothes as we are led to believe we do! My suggestion is to have only a handful of your favorite tops and bottoms that fit you well in this season – with the rest kept in bins – to reduce chaos and clutter in your morning routine. Look into creating a capsule wardrobe and/or adopting a seasonal uniform. Less mental energy spent on what you wear equals more energy and brain space for things that really matter, like self and baby care.
3. Lower your odds for postpartum depression. There is a direct correlation between the amount of items in a home and the amount of clutter that accumulates. We all have different levels of tolerance for clutter, yet researchers at UCLA’s Center for Everyday Lives and Families discovered a direct link between high stress hormone levels in women and a high density of household objects (from Life at Home in the 21st Century). To my knowledge, there are no studies on clutter and postpartum depression, but I truly believe that if you decrease the number of items you own, you will lower your likelihood of developing this condition.
When my second born was a baby and crying inconsolably, I remember pacing back and forth with him wailing in my arms through the rooms of our house. With each pass seeing the piles of clutter, I could feel my stress levels rising knowing that tidying wasn’t an option with a very needy infant needing my constant attention. Dear soon-to-be mother, for your own mental health, please consider purging your home before your baby arrives!
4. Experience peace and contentment. As you go through the process of getting rid of the excess in your life, you will begin to realize that you don’t really need as much as you had previously believed. Your urge to run to Target for a quick fix of “retail therapy” or a shopping for a new baby gadget on Amazon will quietly subside, and you’ll start to experience contentment and fulfillment in the things that really matter.
5. Enjoy more down time. This is kind of crazy, and I wouldn’t really have believed it before I began minimizing, but living with less literally opens up so much more time in your day. If you think about it, every item we own requires some maintenance, however small. But lots of small things requiring only a little attention quickly adds up and we don’t even realize it. For me, with a new baby, I never felt that I could afford the luxury of taking time for rest or self-care. There was always work to be done, people to take care of, things to clean. I can only imagine how much more restful my postpartum periods would have been if I had embraced simplicity sooner.
6. Enjoy an easy-to clean house. If you have toddlers or older kids as well as a newborn, your house can become a jumbled mess in the time it takes to brush your teeth. With kids dumping out bins of toys or puzzles, it can seem impossible to stay on top of keeping things picked up. In his book Simplicity Parenting, Kim John Payne does an excellent job of explaining how fewer toys can deeply benefit your kids. And practically speaking, the fewer toys they have, the less overwhelming you will feel when it is time to clean up. Just a few weeks ago, my five-year-old son and I went through his car bin, and he easily picked out all the cars that are no longer his favorites. Now, when it’s time to clean up cars, it takes half the time it used to.
7. Be ever ready for drop-by guests. I think we’ve had more visitors after the births of our babies than at any other time in the history of our marriage. Granted, most people are more than gracious visitors, knowing that having just had a baby upkeep of your home is low on your list of priorities. But I’ve found that with less stuff, my home is literally almost always ready for unexpected visitors. There always are a few things out here and there, but never to the extent that I am embarrassed or feel the need to apologize to my guests.
These are just a few of the ways I believe living with less will dramatically increase your quality of living after having a baby, and I so wish I would have known about this type of intentional lifestyle sooner. But I am truly loving it now, and my kids are still young enough where I believe they are reaping rewards that will last them a lifetime. They are learning at a young age that stuff does not equal happiness, as our culture would entice them to believe. They happily spend hours in imaginative play, because they aren’t distracted by too many toys. And they are growing generous hearts, holding their things with open hands, and gladly giving toys a new home when they are outgrown.
So, for the sake of your mental health and happiness, and for the well-being of your family, I encourage you to do some digging and discover how living more simply can truly benefit you and your family. If you have questions on where to start, or just want to chat, please be in touch! I'd love to get to know where you're at and talk more about this lifestyle with you!